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We work through The Refuge Workbook, written by Pastor Shane Waldron, in such a way that a woman can join at any time. Refuge Kids provides childcare for women attending The Refuge by caregivers using trauma-informed activities. Turning Point is a weekly group to bring accountability and transformation to perpetrators of domestic abuse. There are no fees to be a chapter of Refuge Ministries other than workbook purchases for Mentors and Clients.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>\u003Cstrong>ABUSE AWARENESS SEMINARS:\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cbr>Refuge Ministries NA offers comprehensive 2-3 hour seminars tailored for churches and organizations seeking to deepen their understanding and effectively identify instances of abuse, particularly domestic abuse. These seminars serve as vital introductory sessions to equip participants with the knowledge and tools to extend compassionate support to survivors. Rooted in a biblical framework, the seminars not only shed light on the complexities of abuse but also emphasize the significance of providing holistic care to those affected. Through insightful discussions, practical examples, and pertinent resources, attendees are empowered to recognize signs of abuse, navigate sensitive situations with empathy, and offer meaningful assistance to survivors on their journey toward healing and restoration.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Cost: \u003Cstrong>Depends on organization size\u003C\u002Fstrong>. Including printing of handouts, travel, lodging, and meals.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cpre class=\"wp-block-code\">\u003Ccode>\u003C\u002Fcode>\u003C\u002Fpre>",{"title":10,"published_at":11,"slug":12,"content":13},"Achieve Safety","2019-11-26","achieve-safety","\u003Cp>If you are in need of immediate safety, call 911. If it is not an emergency, contact Refuge Ministries, and we would be happy to help you, both with processing the best plan and the options before you.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>God values safety and freedom for the oppressed. His response to oppression in Scripture is very clear:\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Deuteronomy 26:6-8 “And the Egyptians treated us harshly and humiliated us and laid on us hard labor. Then we cried to the Lord, the God of our fathers, and the Lord heard our voice and saw our affliction, our toil, and our oppression. And the Lord brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand and an outstretched arm.”\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Luke 4:17-21 “And the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was given to him. He unrolled the scroll and found the place where it was written, ‘The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering the sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.’… And he began to say to them, ‘Today this Scripture has been fulfilled in your hearing.’”\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>In Scripture, God is always on the side of the oppressed.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Focus Ministries has a great resource for achieving safety. \u003Ca href=\"http:\u002F\u002Fwww.focusministries1.org\u002Fhelp\u002Fsafety-plan\">http:\u002F\u002Fwww.focusministries1.org\u002Fhelp\u002Fsafety-plan\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":15,"published_at":11,"slug":16,"content":17},"Divorce and Domestic Abuse","divorce-and-domestic-abuse","\u003Cp>Does Abuse qualify as biblical grounds for divorce? Does the Bible have anything to say on this?\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cdiv class=\"wp-block-file\">\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002F12%20Divorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse.pdf\">Divorce and Domestic Abuse Study Guilde.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002F12%20Divorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse.pdf\" class=\"wp-block-file__button\" download>Download\u003C\u002Fa>\u003C\u002Fdiv>\n\u003Cdiv class=\"wp-block-file\">\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FDivorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse%20Handout.docx\">Divorce and Domestic Abuse Handout\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FDivorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse%20Handout.docx\" class=\"wp-block-file__button\" download>Download\u003C\u002Fa>\u003C\u002Fdiv>\n\u003Cdiv class=\"wp-block-file\">\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FDivorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse%20Slides.pdf\">Divorce and Domestic Abuse Slides\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FDivorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse%20Slides.pdf\" class=\"wp-block-file__button\" download>Download\u003C\u002Fa>\u003C\u002Fdiv>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FDivorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003Cfigcaption>Divorce and Domestic Abuse\u003C\u002Ffigcaption>\u003C\u002Ffigure>",{"title":19,"published_at":11,"slug":20,"content":21},"Establish New Patterns","establish-new-patterns","\u003Cp>The relationships of most survivors of abuse are governed by fear. A survivor’s relationship with God must become the new paradigm for her relationships. One of the best ways we believe to find healing is to join the Refuge support group. You will find that there are many women who understand what you are going through, can relate, and have experienced many of the same things that you have.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\">\u003Cimg src=\"\u002Fuploads\u002F2019_11_ben-white-e92L8PwcHD4-unsplash-1024x684.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-215\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>1 John 4:13-21 By this we know that we abide in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world…So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us… By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment, because as he is so also are we in this world. There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. We love because he first loved us… And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>2 Timothy 1:7 For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":23,"published_at":11,"slug":24,"content":25},"Finding Healing In Christ","finding-healing-in-christ","\u003Cp>Many survivors feel shame from their association with an abusive man. It is shameful to reveal to the outside world that the man who is supposed to cherish you has chosen to demean and reject you. One of the most devastating aspects of domestic abuse is that it instills a false identity in the survivor. Regardless of why there is shame, there is a great need to find healing from it.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\">\u003Cimg src=\"\u002Fuploads\u002F2019_11_resources-findinghealing.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-155\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":27,"published_at":11,"book_author":28,"purchase_url":29,"cover_image":30,"slug":31,"content":32},"Is It My Fault?","Justin S. Holcomb and Lindsey A. Holcomb","http:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002FMy-Fault-Suffering-Domestic-Violence\u002Fdp\u002F0802410243\u002Fref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1457976561&sr=1-1&keywords=is+it+my+fault&tag=montedia-20","\u002Fuploads\u002F83375393-ea65-4e74-bb63-10ba11918c7e-book-myfault.jpg","is-it-my-fault","\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"http:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002FMy-Fault-Suffering-Domestic-Violence\u002Fdp\u002F0802410243\u002Fref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1457976561&sr=1-1&keywords=is+it+my+fault\">Is It My Fault? Hope and Healing for Those Suffering Domestic Violence\u003C\u002Fa>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Is It My Fault? is a message of hope and healing to victims who know too well the depths of destruction and the overwhelming reality of domestic violence.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>At least one in every three women have been beaten, coerced into sex, or abused in their lifetime. The effects of domestic violence are physical, social, emotional, psychological, and spiritual, and can have long-lasting distressing consequences. It is common for victims of domestic violence to suffer from ongoing depression and recurring nightmares, self-harm, panic attacks, substance abuse, and more.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Is It My Fault? addresses the abysmal issue of domestic violence with the powerful and transforming biblical message of grace and redemption. It deals with this devastating problem and sin honestly and directly without hiding its prevalence today.\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":34,"published_at":11,"slug":35,"content":36},"See the Abuse","see-the-abuse","\u003Cp>\u003Cstrong>Oppression in the Bible\u003C\u002Fstrong>:\u003Cbr>The Bible’s description of oppression fits the experience of domestic abuse:\u003Cbr>• Psalm 10:7 “His mouth is filled with cursing and deceit and oppression; under his tongue are mischief and iniquity.”\u003Cbr>• Psalm 55: o I am restless in my complaint and I moan, because of the noise of the enemy, because of the oppression of the wicked. For they drop trouble upon me, and in anger they bear a grudge against me. (vv. 2-3)\u003Cbr>o My companion stretched out his hand against his friends; he violated his covenant. (v. 20)\u003Cbr>o For it is not an enemy who taunts me – then I could bear it; it is not an adversary who deals insolently with me – then I could hide from him. But it is you, a man, my equal, my companion, my familiar friend. (vv. 12-13)\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>God’s heart for the oppressed:\u003Cbr>Psalm 9:9 “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.”\u003Cbr>Psalm 56: “Be gracious to me, O God, for man tramples on me; all day long an attacker oppresses me… You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle. Are they not in your book? Then my enemies will turn back in the day when I call. This I know, that God is for me.”\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":38,"published_at":11,"book_author":39,"purchase_url":40,"cover_image":41,"slug":42,"content":43},"Shame Interrupted","Edward T. Welch","http:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002FShame-Interrupted-Lifts-Worthlessness-Rejection\u002Fdp\u002F1935273981\u002Fref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1457976532&sr=1-1&keywords=shame+interrupted+ed+welch&tag=montedia-20","\u002Fuploads\u002Fb6075fe6-dadb-49a8-977f-18da861b2df5-book-shame.jpg","shame-interrupted","\u003Cp>Shame controls far too many of us. Worthless, inferior, rejected, weak, humiliated, failure...it all adds up to wishing we could get away from others and hide. We know what shame feels like. The way out, however, is harder to find. Time doesn't help, neither does confession, because shame is just as often from what others do to you as it is from what you have done. But the Bible is about shame from start to finish, and, if we are willing, God's beautiful words break through. Look at Jesus through the lens of shame and see how the marginalized and worthless are his favorites and become his people. God cares for the shamed. Through Jesus you are covered, adopted, cleansed, and healed.\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":45,"published_at":11,"slug":46,"content":47},"Teachings on Domestic Abuse","teachings-on-domestic-abuse","\u003Cp>All the audio, handouts, and powerpoints from the official seminar sessions.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Please do not redistribute or repost without obtaining permission.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Additional Topic Materials:\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Ch4>Understanding Abuse Biblically\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\u003Cimg src=\"\u002Fuploads\u002F2019_11_kyle-broad-P9rQn2qcEV0-unsplash-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-221\" width=\"324\" height=\"216\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FUnderstanding%20Abuse%20Biblically%20Handout.docx\">Understanding Abuse Biblically Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FUnderstanding%20Abuse%20Biblically%20Slides.pdf\">Understanding Abuse Biblically Slides.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FUnderstanding%20Abuse%20Biblically.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Heart of an Abuser\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\u003Cimg src=\"\u002Fuploads\u002F2019_11_andrew-neel-JBfdCFeRDeQ-unsplash-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-242\" width=\"302\" height=\"201\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FHeart%20of%20an%20Abuser%20Handout.docx\">Heart of an Abuser Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FHeart%20of%20an%20Abuser%20Slides.pdf\">Heart of an Abuser Slides.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FHeart%20of%20an%20Abuser.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Patterns of Abuse\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-image is-resized\">\u003Cimg src=\"\u002Fuploads\u002F2019_11_jordan-whitt-KQCXf_zvdaU-unsplash-684x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-220\" width=\"275\" height=\"411\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FPatterns%20of%20Abuse%20Handout.docx\">Patterns of Abuse Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FPatterns%20of%20Abuse%20Slides.pdf\">Patterns of Abuse Slides.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FPatterns%20of%20Abuse.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Avoiding Common Mistakes\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FAvoiding%20Common%20Mistakes%20Handout.docx\">Avoiding Common Mistakes Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FAvoiding%20Common%20Mistakes.pdf\">Avoiding Common Mistakes Slides.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FAvoiding%20Common%20Mistakes.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Incarnational Ministry\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FIncarnational%20Ministry%20Handout.docx\">Incarnational Ministry Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FIncarnational%20Ministry%20Slides.pdf\">Incarnational Ministry Slides.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FIncarnational%20Ministry.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Divorce and Domestic Abuse\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FDivorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse%20Handout.docx\">Divorce and Domestic Abuse Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FDivorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse%20Slides.pdf\">Divorce and Domestic Abuse Slides.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FDivorce%20and%20Domestic%20Abuse.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Shame & Honor\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FShame%20%26%20Honor%20Handout.docx\">Shame & Honor Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FShame%20%26%20Honor%20Slides.pdf\">Shame & Honor Slides.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FL10%20Shame%20%26%20Honor.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Fear & Love\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FL11%20Fear%20%26%20Love%20Handout.docx\">L11 Fear & Love Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FFear%20%26%20Love.pdf\">Fear & Love.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FL11%20Fear%20and%20Love.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch4>Equality\u003C\u002Fh4>\n\u003Cp>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FL13%20Equality%20Handout.docx\">Equality Handout.docx\u003C\u002Fa>\u003Cbr>\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FEquality.pdf\">Equality.pdf\u003C\u002Fa>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-audio\">\u003Caudio controls src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmedia.ministeriorefugio.com\u002FL13%20Equality.mp3\">\u003C\u002Faudio>\u003C\u002Ffigure>",{"title":49,"published_at":11,"book_author":50,"purchase_url":51,"cover_image":52,"slug":53,"content":54},"The Emotionally Destructive Marriage","Leslie Vernick","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002FEmotionally-Destructive-Marriage-PB\u002Fdp\u002F0307731189?tag=montedia-20","\u002Fuploads\u002F5ba651cb-87ba-4b9a-af5c-8228fb78ea92-book-marriage.jpg","the-emotionally-destructive-marriage","\u003Cp>You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\">\u003Cimg src=\"\u002Fuploads\u002F2019_11_book-marriage.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-118\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003Cp>For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to:\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cul>\u003Cli>identify damaging behaviors\u003C\u002Fli>\u003Cli>gain the skills to respond wisely\u003C\u002Fli>\u003Cli>promote healthy change\u003C\u002Fli>\u003Cli>stay safe\u003C\u002Fli>\u003Cli>understand when, why, and even how to leave\u003C\u002Fli>\u003Cli>recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you\u003C\u002Fli>\u003C\u002Ful>\n\u003Cp>Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future.\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":56,"published_at":11,"book_author":50,"purchase_url":57,"cover_image":58,"slug":59,"content":60},"The Emotionally Destructive Relationship","http:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002FEmotionally-Destructive-Relationship-Stopping-Surviving\u002Fdp\u002F0736918973\u002Fref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1457976626&sr=1-1&keywords=the+emotionally+destructive+relationship&tag=montedia-20","\u002Fuploads\u002Fbe45190b-6246-437b-9cce-80f76c329023-book-emotional.jpg","the-emotionally-destructive-relationship","\u003Cp>Leslie Vernick, counselor and social worker, has witnessed the devastating effects of emotional abuse. Many, including many in the church, have not addressed this form of destruction in families and relationships because it is difficult to talk about. With godly guidance and practical experience, Vernick offers an empathetic approach to recognizing an emotionally destructive relationship and addresses the symptoms and the damage with biblical tools. Readers will understand how to:\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>• Reveal behaviors that are meant to control, punish, and hurt • Confront and speak truth when the timing is right • Determine when to keep trying, when to get out • Get safe and stay safe • Build an identity in Christ\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>This practical and thorough resource will help countless individuals, families, and churches view abuse from God's perspective and understand how vital it is for victims to embrace His freedom from the physical, emotional, spiritual, and generational effects of emotionally destructive relationships.\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":62,"published_at":11,"book_author":63,"purchase_url":64,"cover_image":65,"slug":66,"content":67},"The Verbally Abusive Relationship","Patricia Evans","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002Fgp\u002Fproduct\u002F1440504636\u002Fref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=montedia-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=1440504636&linkId=03dd050010e8631e713f10360dcc4143","\u002Fuploads\u002F87912b10-84de-4a82-ad21-9f4884992936-book-verbally.jpg","the-verbally-abusive-relationship","\u003Ch2>The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond\u003C\u002Fh2>\n\u003Cp>In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life. In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse - and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior - from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse. Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse - and the abuser. This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time!\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":69,"published_at":11,"slug":70,"content":71},"Five Types of Abuse","types-of-abuse","\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch3>1. Psychological\u003C\u002Fh3>\n\u003Cp>Psychological abuse, also known as emotional or verbal abuse, is a form of abuse that can occur in a marriage or intimate relationship. It is any non-physical behavior designed to control someone through degradation, humiliation, or fear and involves manipulation, intimidation, and other tactics to control and dominate one's partner.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Examples of psychological abuse include verbal abuse, such as name-calling and belittling; controlling behavior, such as limiting one's freedom or access to resources; and gaslighting, which is a manipulation tactic in which the abuser manipulates their partner into doubting their own sanity.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Psychological abuse can severely impact the victim, including feelings of depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. It can also lead to physical health problems and make it difficult for the victim to leave the relationship.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cdiv class=\"wp-block-group\">\u003Cfigure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\">\u003Cimg src=\"\u002Fuploads\u002F2019_11_anthony-tran-vXymirxr5ac-unsplash-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-214\" width=\"518\" height=\"345\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Ffigure>\n\u003C\u002Fdiv>\n\u003Ch3>2. Spiritual\u003C\u002Fh3>\n\u003Cp>Spiritual abuse is a type of abuse that can occur in any type of relationship, including marriage or intimate partnerships. It is an attempt to use a person’s faith to manipulate and control them and involves using spiritual beliefs, practices, and institutions to control, manipulate, and dominate one's partner.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Examples of spiritual abuse include using religious beliefs to justify controlling or abusive behavior, such as telling a partner that they must submit to their partner's authority or that they are \"sinful\" for questioning their partner's behavior; using religious practices or rituals to control or exploit a partner, such as forcing them to participate in rituals against their will; and using spiritual institutions, such as a church or religious community, to isolate and control a partner.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Spiritual abuse can have a severe impact on the victim, including feelings of guilt, shame, and confusion. It can also lead to a loss of faith or spiritual identity and can make it difficult for the victim to leave the relationship.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch3>3. Economical\u003C\u002Fh3>\n\u003Cp>Economic or financial abuse is a form of abuse that can occur in intimate partner relationships. It involves the use of financial resources and power to control and dominate one's partner.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Examples of economic or financial abuse include controlling access to money, such as not allowing a partner to have their own bank account or credit card; controlling access to assets, such as not allowing a partner to own property or other assets; manipulating or withholding money, such as not giving a partner enough money to pay for basic needs or withholding money as punishment; and coercing a partner into signing legal documents or making financial decisions that are not in their best interest.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Economic or financial abuse can severely impact the victim, including feelings of financial insecurity, powerlessness, and dependence on the abuser. It can also lead to financial ruin, making it difficult for the victim to leave the relationship. The abuser may also use the control over financial resources to threaten the victim or make them feel they have no other options.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch3>4. Sexual\u003C\u002Fh3>\n\u003Cp>Sexual abuse is a form of abuse that involves any form of non-consensual sexual contact or behavior. It can include various actions, such as sexual assault, rape, sexual harassment, and sexual exploitation.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Examples of sexual abuse include unwanted touching, kissing, or fondling; forcing someone to engage in sexual activity against their will; threatening or coercing someone into sexual activity; sexual contact with someone unable to give consent, such as someone unconscious, drugged, or under the age of consent; and exposing someone to unwanted sexual content, such as pornography or sexual comments.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Sexual abuse can severely impact the victim, including physical injuries, trauma, and emotional distress. It can also lead to long-term mental health problems, such as depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Ch3>5. Physical\u003C\u002Fh3>\n\u003Cp>Physical abuse is a form of abuse that involves any form of physical violence or aggression toward another person. Physical abuse can include many actions, such as hitting, slapping, kicking, pushing, and even murder.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Examples of physical abuse include hitting, slapping, punching, kicking, and choking; using weapons to threaten or harm someone; physically restraining or locking them in a room; throwing objects at someone; and causing physical harm to someone else's property.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Physical abuse can have severe and long-lasting consequences, both physically and mentally. It can cause injuries, such as bruises, broken bones, and even death. It can also lead to long-term mental health problems, such as depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>\u003Cem>It is essential to recognize that all of these five are forms of abuse and that both the victim and the abuser can benefit from professional help. Therapy and financial counseling can help the victim heal from the trauma and abuse and help the abuser understand and change their behavior. \u003C\u002Fem>\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":73,"published_at":11,"book_author":74,"purchase_url":75,"cover_image":76,"slug":77,"content":78},"Violence Among Us","Brenda Branson and Paula J. Silva","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002Fgp\u002Fproduct\u002F0817015159\u002Fref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=montedia-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0817015159&linkId=491fc85bf2ef0790d0b8ae1c67c397ca","\u002Fuploads\u002Fec9b6aa1-2a3e-4a84-9629-c1172a427313-book-violence.jpg","violence-among-us","\u003Cp>This book offers practical help in identifying abusive situations. It has strategic counseling tips, case studies and models of effective ministry to both the victim and the perpetrator. There are resource lists which include domestic violence hotlines and shelters, faith-based organizations, abuser treatment programs, and information on legal and safety issues.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>If you are a pastor, counselor, or are ministering to abusive relationships in some capacity, this book is very helpful.\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":80,"published_at":11,"slug":81,"content":82},"What is Domestic Abuse","what-is-domestic-abuse","\u003Cp>Domestic abuse is a form of oppression in which a person uses certain behavior patterns to control their intimate partner. The United States Department of Health and Human Services defines domestic violence as \"a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.\" If you are in an abusive relationship and are looking for help, the following information can provide some guidance.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Domestic abuse is a pattern of violent and coercive behavior that one person uses to control the other in an intimate relationship. Abuse can happen in all types of relationships, including ones between relatives and married partners. Someone who is the victim of domestic abuse may find that they are not safe or that the abuser is controlling their life to the point that they can't function or take care of themselves.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>One of the most common forms of domestic abuse is known as \u003Cem>emotional abuse\u003C\u002Fem>, which is a form of abuse that occurs when one person in an intimate relationship manipulates the other with distressing actions and often leads to social isolation. Such manipulations can include verbal abuse, such as name-calling, put-downs, demeaning comments, and threats. The other person in the relationship is usually forced to accept the abuse, which can make it difficult to leave the relationship.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Domestic Abuse is a type of oppression in which a person uses certain behavior patterns to control their intimate partner. For example, if a person doesn't want their partner to leave the house, they may control the partner by restricting their access to any resources or money. There are different reasons why a person might engage in this type of behavior, and the extent to which an intimate partner experiences abuse may depend on their race, income, or other factors.\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":84,"published_at":11,"book_author":85,"purchase_url":86,"cover_image":87,"slug":88,"content":89},"When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse","Lundy Bancroft","http:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002FWhen-Dad-Hurts-Mom-Witnessing\u002Fdp\u002F0425200310\u002Fref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1457976457&sr=1-1&keywords=when+dad+hurts+mom&tag=montedia-20","\u002Fuploads\u002F36da219a-8343-411b-91ed-6bf6dd3dc109-book-dadhurts.jpg","when-dad-hurts-mom-helping-your-children-heal-the-wounds-of-witnessing-abuse","\u003Cp>Can my partner abuse me and still be a good parent? Should I stay with my partner for my children's sake? How should I talk to my children about the abuse and help them heal? Am I a bad mother?\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>Mothers in physically or emotionally abusive relationships ask themselves these questions every day. Here, a counselor reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children-and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing abuse.\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>This book, the first ever of its kind, shows mothers how to: \u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>• Protect children and help them heal emotionally \u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>• Provide love, support, and positive role models, even in the midst of abuse \u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>• Increase their chances of winning custody \u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003Cp>• Help their kids feel good about themselves\u003C\u002Fp>",{"title":91,"published_at":11,"book_author":85,"purchase_url":92,"cover_image":93,"slug":94,"content":95},"Why Does He Do That?","http:\u002F\u002Fwww.amazon.com\u002FWhy-Does-He-That-Controlling\u002Fdp\u002F0425191656\u002Fref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1457976491&sr=1-1&keywords=why+does+he+do+that&tag=montedia-20","\u002Fuploads\u002Fec5d9444-12c7-49c8-bce1-c450703c221e-book-why.jpg","why-does-he-do-that","\u003Cp>This volume offers women guidelines on how to improve and survive an abusive relationship, discussing various types of abusive men, analysing societal myths surrounding abuse, and answering questions about the warning signs of abuse.\u003Cbr>\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fp>",1788560095764]